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Sometimes it's more than being afraid of the emotional toll. It's also being convinced that we won't be able to find another job, or situation.

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True. I find that in the background, there's often also a sense of dread of more of the same in the next situation (i.e. more ongoing, unresolved conflict).

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Well said .... I think I knew this deep down but didn't know how to articulate it until you said it. I see this in people's (and sometimes my own) personal relationships as well.

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Definitely. This one hit me hard upside the head recently as I was thinking about some personal relationships that have been difficult for me.

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I am working on this very thing! I have started reading Crucial Conversations to learn more practical tips for approaching and navigating conflict in dialogue.

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Fantastic choice. What are you finding in terms of how to repair?

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I really like the lens of how time kills all progress. i.e. the longer you don't address, the more damage is done. simple enough right! lol.

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True. The more time passes, the less fixable it seems. And we can feel compelled to give up on the relationship entirely. Leave your job. Or something else.

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